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Does OCD Make You Feel Like You’re A Bad Person? (Dealing With OCD Guilt)

“Am I a bad person?” is a common question many of our clients ask themselves. When battling with intrusive thoughts it is common to question everything including your morality, identity, and self-concept.

After all, OCD has frequently been named ‘the doubting disorder’.

  • Those doubts make you feel like a bad person for having those thoughts.
  • They make you feel like a bad person for not being able to control those thoughts.
  • They make you feel like a bad person because of the context of those thoughts.
  • They also make you feel like a bad person for not being to control your compulsions in response to that doubt.

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Ep 341 Acceptance scripts (with Jon Grayson)

Acceptance Scripts (with Jon Grayson) | Ep. 341

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Welcome back, everybody. Today we are talking about Acceptance Scripts with Dr Jon Grayson. 

So happy to be here with you as we tie together our series on imaginals and scripts. Today, we have the amazing Dr. Jon Grayson and he is going to talk about acceptance scripts and the real importance of making sure we use acceptance when we’re talking about scripts and imaginals. I’m so excited to share this episode with you. I think it really does, again, tie together the two other guests that we’ve had on the show in this series. 

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Why do OCD Intrusive Thoughts Feel So Real (Should I be worried?)

The uncertainty of whether or not these intrusive thoughts are real is ultimately what allows OCD to thrive.

The truth is, living with this condition can be unbearable for the sufferer.

Every day, your mind is bombarded by intrusive thoughts that terrify you, thoughts that go against everything you value and believe in. 

These thoughts make you question your very identity, leaving you feeling ashamed and afraid. 

You desperately try to resist them, but they persist, gnawing at your sanity. It’s a suffocating fear that something terrible will happen if you don’t listen to these intrusive thoughts. 

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340 ERP Scripting with Shala Nicely

ERP Scripting (with Shala Nicely) | Ep. 340

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Today we are talking all about ERP Scripting with Shala Nicely. Welcome back, everybody. We are on Week 2 of the Imaginals and Script Series. This week, we have the amazing Shala Nicely on the show. She’s been on before. She’s one of my closest friends and I’m so honored to have her on. 

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How To Stop OCD ‘What If’ Intrusive Thoughts

If you have OCD, ‘what if’ thoughts are a source of great torment and pain for sufferers.

Have you ever had a thought stuck in your head that gets stuck in a loop, going around and around… until it feels like you have no ability to think about anything else?

They seemingly come from nowhere and are often taboo, strange, downright bizarre, or disturbing in nature.

Almost everyone experiences these thoughts from time to time.

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339 Imaginals: “A Powerful Weapon” for OCD with Krista Reed

Imaginals: “A Powerful Weapon” for OCD with Krista Reed | Ep. 339

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Welcome back, everybody. Thank you for joining me again this week. I’m actually really excited to dive into another topic that I really felt was important that we address. For those of you who are new, this actually might be a very steep learning curve because we are specifically talking about a treatment skill or a tool that we commonly use in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and even more specifically, Exposure and Response Prevention. And that is the use of imaginals or what we otherwise call scripts. Some people also use flooding. 

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You Are Not Your Thoughts (Why This Matters in OCD Recovery)

‘You are not your thoughts’ is a term regularly used in OCD recovery. But for OCD sufferers who are tormented by intrusive thoughts that challenge their morality and identity (and feel so real!), it can be difficult to wrap their heads around this notion.

The common misconception here is that we ARE our thoughts.

Within the context of OCD, this belief is crippling and painful.

Sufferers are constantly invaded with disturbing, shocking, violent, and sometimes aggressive intrusive thoughts across a variety of content. Thoughts that make them wonder, “Who am I if I could think such a thing?”

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338 Staying Busy VS. Compulsive Busy-ness (and How to tell the difference)

Is Being Overly “Busy” A Compulsion? | Ep. 338

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Welcome back, everybody. Today, we are going to have a discussion, and yes, I understand that I am here recording on my own in my room by myself, so it’s not really a discussion. But I wanted to give you an inside look into a discussion I had, and include you hopefully, on Instagram about a post I made about being busy. 

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Suicidal Intrusive Thoughts: I’m afraid I’m going to take my own life

Suicidal intrusive thoughts can be incredibly distressing for the person experiencing them. They are unwanted, repetitive thoughts (or images) around the fear of taking your own life. These occur in a person’s mind despite not wanting or intending to have them which is why they feel so alarming. 

They are a type of intrusive thought, which are often alarming and highly disturbing thoughts or images that involuntarily pop up in a person’s mind seemingly out of nowhere.

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337 How to be happy (when you have anxiety)

How to be Happy (When You Have Anxiety) | Ep.337

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Hello and welcome back, everybody. We have an amazing guest today. This is actually somebody I have followed, sort of half known for a long time through a very, very close friend, Shala Nicely, who’s been on the show quite a few times, and she connected me with Dr. Ashley Smith. Today, we are talking about happiness and what makes a “good life” regardless of anxiety or of challenges you may be going through. 

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