#34: Setting Boundaries - Therapy & Counseling for OCD & Eating Disorders

Well, this week I tell you a story about the most influential moment I have experienced regarding boundary setting. It is one of my favorite stories to tell because it taught me SO MUCH about setting boundaries and helped me see that some of the beliefs I had around setting boundaries were ENTIRELY wrong!

During this podcast, we discuss FOUR steps to Boundary Setting and discuss how this can help us manage anxiety, resentment, and anger.

I hope you enjoy the story as much I as enjoy telling it!

Forward we go,
Kimberley

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