24 November 2017

Episode #24: Willingness-Leave It All Out On The Field!

I LOVE the term, “leave it all out on the field!”

There is something totally radical and badass about the idea of “leaving it all out on the field!” It means we are committed to the hard work.  It demonstrates that we are ready to feel some discomfort.  “Leaving it out on the field” describes giving it your everything.  I LOVE it!

How does this apply to Mindfulness? The degree that you “leave it out on the field” is a great way to describe Willingness.  Willingness is radically accepting and giving consent to our present experience.

We can conceptualize Willingness as scale, similar to a continuum.

0/10 Willingness implies we have absolutely NO willingness to be uncomfortable (or have anxiety, intrusive thoughts, panic, have uncertainty).

• We reject all feelings of discomfort
• Fear makes our decisions (causing us to do more compulsions)
• Disown any negative experience

10/10 Willingness is saying 100% “YES” to whatever experience of discomfort that arises

• Radically accepting the feared outcome
• Allowing yourself to have anxiety, fear and intrusive thoughts.
• You LEFT IT ALL OUT ON THE FIELD!

Listen to hear ways to increase your WILLINGNESS, even if it is just a teeny, tiny bit.

Enjoy!  And Happy Thanksgiving!

15 November 2017

The Mindful Use of Technology

Hi everyone!  I hope this finds you well.

This podcast is about a topic that is so important and so interesting to me.  In this episode, we speak with screen time expert, Dr Dustin Weissman about how to use technology (smart phones, tablets, internet etc) in a mindful and healthy way.  We specifically discuss how to manage Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), OCD Spectrum Disorders such as Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), and Eating Disorders.

In this episode, we discussed:

• Does technology improve or harm our Self-Esteem?
• How can we create a Balanced lifestyle when using technology?
• How can Parents monitor and moderate their children’s use?
• How can Parents practice sound and mindful discipline using technology as the reward or consequence?
• How can we, as adults, monitor and manage our use of technology in this era of information?
• How can we manage the compulsive use of internet/mobile devices for those with OCD and BDD?
• How can we manage reassurance seeking behaviors related to technology use?

Special tips for those with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) and  Eating Disorders.

Earlier this year, Dr Weissman published his dissertation titled, Impacts of Playing Massively Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Games (MMORPGs) on Individuals’ Subjective Sense of Feeling Connected with Others.

Some links we discussed in the Podcast: 

Quality Time APP:  http://www.qualitytimeapp.com/faq/

MindSpace Meditation APP: https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/mindspace/id967886308?mt=8

About Dr. Weissman: 

Dr. Dustin Weissman holds a Psychology Doctorate and works in private practice in Westlake Village, CA. He works with clients who are struggling with any form of internet addiction or problematic internet use, which include: online gaming, gambling, pornography, or smartphone addiction.

Earlier this year, he published his dissertation, Impacts of Playing Massively Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Games (MMORPGs) on Individuals’ Subjective Sense of Feeling Connected with Others. A link can be found from his personal website, DustinWeissman.com. He was recently featured as an expert on screen time in an online article and has given numerous workshops.

I hope you found this episode helpful.  I know I did!

Warmly,

Kimberley

5 November 2017

Got something you really want to achieve? I am guessing that you most certainly do. What is holding you back from taking on this thing you want achieve?  Why can’t you reach this goal? This is the big question that I am toying with right now.  Why can’t I? Why not Me? Why not you?  It is a really tough subject, because we have to face ourselves and our possibilities, and this can be SUPER scary.

Sometimes, at least for me, when we look at our big goals, we are forces to tackle our deepest limiting beliefs.  “I am not enough.”  “I am not strong enough.” “No one cares about me anyway.”  “What’s the point.  I will only ruin everything anyway.”  These are all limiting beliefs that stop us from reaching realistic goals.

Think about it. I am guessing at least one person (or maybe millions of people) have achieved your goal, or a goal like it, already.  WHY NOT YOU?   “It’s not special if someone else has already done it.”  LIMITING BELIEF!!! “I don’t have what it takes!”   How do you know?

Thomas Edison failed 1000’s of times to make the light bulb.  That is one piece of proof that you probably can!  Persistence people!

Let’s really get to know our limiting beliefs and then be SUPER mindful about them.  Listen to hear more about how. 🙂